BODY HAIR AND YOUR DAUGHTER

BODY HAIR AND YOUR DAUGHTER

Mummy, I think I should start waxing. All my friends have started waxing. Nonsense, youre too young. Wait for another two years. Why, I didnt start until I was sixteen! There is no reason for you to start at just thirteen!Often parents dont really know when they should start their daughter on waxing, and believe the later, the better. Youre thinking that she should be concentrating on her studies instead of on beauty matters. Be realistic, and understand that just by disallowing her to wax will not automatically ensure that she stops wanting it and starts concentrating on her studies. If you really think about it, there is no reason why your daughter needs to wait until she is much older. Generally any age after 11 should be acceptable. Girls discuss who is hairy, and while they may not necessarily be cruel about it, they could have planted a seed in your daughters head that she has hairy arms or hairy legs. By disallowing her to start waxing, and by disallowing any further discussion on the topic, you will be causing her to feel insecure about her body hair. 11-year-old Samina was extremely conscious about a little hair on her upper lip, and wanted to get it threaded, but her mother refused to hear of it. She was too uncomfortable to mention it again, so one day she took a wet towel and tried to scrub it off. The only thing she succeeded in scrubbing off was her skin, and she spent the entire evening at home covering her mouth with a towel, and then going to school the next morning with a bruised upper lip. Archana was a little more daring. She simply started shaving her upper lip with her fathers razor, until her mother noticed her little stubble. Her mother shouted at her a little, but for the most part, understood, and taught her how to bleach her upper lip. It helps if you explain to your daughter at the outset that she should not use a razor on her face as she will develop stubble, and that when she grows up a little there will be various hair removing options available to her. At the same time, if your daughter has not yet starting showing a desire to being waxing, there is no reason for you to make her conscious about her body hair. She will come to you when she is ready, and whether she gets ready at an earlier or later date, be sure to be open to discussion. You could promise that she can start waxing if she obtains a certain grade. Tell her that at this age she should be focusing on her studies, but at the same time, let her know that you understand. You could perhaps keep it as an incentive. If she gets good grades in her next exam, if she starts waking up at a certain time, or if she goes regularly for her tennis lessons, she can start waxing. Dont be vague. First start waking up at 7:30 every morning, and then we will see. Of course your child is not going to start waking up at 7:30! Why should she? Come up with a great incentive, give her a time frame, and then stick to your word. To take another example, ten-year-old Tushima didnt like her moustache, but never did pay much attention to it until heard the boys making fun of Asfiyas moustache. Lets buy her a razor for her birthday! said Prithvi, and everyone burst out laughing. Tushimas hands flew to her own upper lip, and she asked her mother if she could maybe start bleaching. Of course, said her mother, and never again did Tushima have to feel self-conscious about that again.The minute girls hit puberty, their bodies start undergoing changes, changes they are not entirely comfortable with. They start slouching and wearing oversized shirts to hide their breasts, men start looking at them differently and roadside Romeos start whistling at them and making passes. She really has enough to feel self-conscious about anyway, and you dont need to add body hair to that list. So if she wants to start waxing at 13 instead of at 16, by all means, allow it.